Couples & Partner Therapy
Reconnect, Repair, Grow - Together
How Couples & Partner Therapy Works
Sessions typically last 50 to 90 minutes, and most of the work is done with all partners present. Occasionally, your therapist may suggest brief 1:1 sessions to better understand each person’s inner experience-always in service of supporting the relationship as a whole.
In the early stages of therapy, you can expect to explore:
how your relationship or marriage began and what it means to each of you
the cultural, familial, and personal histories you both carry
attachment patterns, conflict cycles, and emotional triggers
communication styles and the ways each partner seeks safety
boundaries, agreements, and relational expectations (traditional or non-traditional)
strengths and areas of resilience already present in the relationship
There is no rigid timeline for couples therapy. Together with your therapist, you’ll decide when you’ve reached a place of clarity, connection, regulation, or resolution that feels aligned.
Your therapist will never take sides or weaponize insight. Their role is to create a space where each partner feels seen, validated, and supported-while guiding you toward healthier patterns, shared meaning, and relational healing.
Areas of Focus
Couples therapy at Selva blends attachment science, nervous system regulation, trauma-informed care, and integrative relational frameworks to support couples and partners in every configuration. We honor who you are, how you love, and the relationship you’re building-or transforming with intention. Depending on your needs, your work may include:
Marriage counseling: communication, intimacy, conflict resolution
Premarital counseling
Conscious uncoupling and compassionate separation work
Identifying individual and shared needs
Rebuilding trust after a rupture or betrayal
Strengthening communication and emotional attunement
Navigating ENM/poly agreements, jealousy, boundaries, and negotiation
Exploring intimacy, desire, and sexual reconnection
Supporting LGBTQ+, kink, and BDSM dynamics with a trauma-informed, shame-free lense
Addressing resentment, escalation, shutdown, or emotional distance
Managing major life transitions or evolving relationship structures
Ready to start your healing journey? We offer free consultations!
Ready to start your healing journey? We offer free consultations!
Meet Our Couples & Partner Therapy Team
Frequently Asked Questions
Sessions often involve guided conversations, communication skill-building, identifying patterns, and exploring underlying emotions or needs. The therapist supports both partners, ensuring the space feels balanced, respectful, and collaborative.
It's common for partners to feel differently about starting therapy. The therapist will help create a safe, low-pressure environment where both partners can express their perspectives and work toward shared understanding.
No. Couples therapy is just as valuable for building stronger habits, deepening emotional intimacy, preparing for long-term commitment, or navigating major life changes.
No. The therapist's role is to support the relationship-not align against either partner. The goal is to understand both perspectives, break unhelpful patterns, and create new ways of relating.
It's normal for partners to come in with different hopes or concerns. Your therapist will help you identify shared goals and navigate areas of difference constructively.